If you find the answer, let me know. My life has been this way for a long time and it is completely his fault. There is nothing that be done for him evidently. DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF! Finding humor is useless for there is nothing funny about this at all. When it gets bad enough you hit a brick wall and give up. If you want more blunt advice, just message me. Just remember, there is life out there without him, enjoy the many other facets of life. Many blessings.
Not sure what I see... but I have heard the swords of loyalty and entrapment clash, the passion for life and learning caged by... that loyalty; no, not quite right... can't find the words. I'm the wrong person to offer suggestions as far as the relationship is concerned, but I have learned that my life is my own and I should have figured that out a whole lot sooner than I was forced to learn that particular lesson. Wonder if he has similar feelings, only resulting from the world of work... he uses those games as an escape... makes living in a world he defines as yours, the house, bearable. Men are soooo bad at dealing with emotions... and drawing them out is a struggle.
I hear someone who is not ready to give up... sending positive energy and sunshine
I see someone who loves life but isn't loving her current situation. I see some defeat and sadness. It shouldn't be about looks, and if it is, IMO, he's being a jerk. You are beautiful and caring and smart. I agree with Ozzma, playfulness and sparkle. Many hugs! I am in somewhat of the same situation, but the roles are reversed. I am in Kent's shoes, and my hubby's in yours. I've come to realize that with the amount of time that I spend with others, that is the amount of time I DON'T spend on my lovey. Your situation may be far different from mine, but I am here for you!
I see a lack of joy honey. These things aren't generally about size. Find the humor and laugh - it helps my fella to see my eyes sparkle. Ask for a magic massager and threaten to let him use it on you - maybe he will? Oh, and I wish I was picking peas - for the record. Big hugs sweetie.
