Me: This is Aaron's girlfriend, Erin. Please, if it is not work related, do not call or text Aaron anymore. If he hasn't talked to you in a week there's a reason. Respect that.
Her: He told me he broke up with u. And why cant Aaron tell me him self?
Me: He can tell you himself, why he hasn't doesn't matter. We never broke up and I asked him last week not to talk to you anymore. And he's honored that.
Her: He told me he wanted to be with me and that im sexy and hot. If he didn't want to be with me then why did he give me his number. Your not his wife why you telling him who he can and cant talk to. If he didn't want to see he could of text me and told me instead of you.
Me: Honey, i've been with aaron for almost a year and a half. He told me that he wanted to work on us. He was then trying to be friends with you. I wasn't comfortable with that and told him last week that I would like him to not talk to you outside of work. I also told him that if he didn't tell you that, I would. And now I have. Please respect this.
I don't have to be someone's wife to tell my partner who I would and wouldn't like them talking to. I have every right to tell my mate that I don't want to talking to so and so, and here are the reasons why.
See, I normally don't do that. Most of the time I don't care who my guy talks to. We have no secrets. But this time, this time was different. For the first time it had to do with a lack of trust. One of the worst things to lose in someone. And I knew that one of the ways that trust was gonna be regained was to ask for communication to stop between him and her.
It has been so tempting to really drag this out. To call her. To tell her off. To bring into light all her short comings. To say, oh yeah, well he's having sex with me and sleeping in the same bed with me.
It can only be boiled down to she's nuts. When you decide you're gonna try to see someone who's dating someone else you have to take into account that they can /always/ change their mind. ALWAYS. And so when you don't hear from them in over a week, they stop sending you texts and calling you, chances are they HAVE changed their mind.
And now for some ranting of the irrational kind:
Look, shit face, you have a lot of fucking nerve. Let me point out the obvious reasons first why you shouldn't have gotten so emotionally involved. First, your MARRIED! Second, you don't have custody of your 18 month old daughter because your HUSBAND is abusive. Wait, speaking of husband, he's in JAIL because of domestic abuse, charges with YOU wanted DROPPED! But the courts said no and so you called my man crying about it. Playing the pitty card. Sure he found you attractive, and yeah, he flirted with the idea of getting together with you. But in the end he changed his mind and yet you still can't see that. He may have not told you straight up, and yes, he should have. But you should have realized it from the fact that he stopped talking to you so much, he never saw you outside of work and how many texts did he actually respond to. And, OMG, seriously?! Text his phone at 7am and wonder why he doesn't text you back? He works from 2pm to 10pm and you want him to come over at 11:30pm. Have you forgotten that he LIVES with me?! Do you honestly think he's gonna sneak out of the house to go see you? And when he hasn't EVER, don't you think you should grow some fucking brains and GET OVER IT?!
See, Aaron is a quiet man, and for him, when stress levels are high and life is just insane, he tends to just ignore the issues he feels to be small. Well, he's ignoring you. So you don't rank high on the importance list. He comes home from work at night and chills with ME! So the texts that you sent where you knew he was with me, guess what, he was, and he wasn't talking to you while he was doing it. How dense does one have to be to not realize that he has moved on?!
End Rant.
I should be pissed about all of this. And I was, I was /very very/ hurt by all of it. And there are still some things that need to be worked out. Words that were said to me that hurt deeply. And none of that can go away fully with her still in the picture.
The good news is that she hasn't text me back. I don't want drama, I hate it. Although sometimes there is a part of me that wants to stir it up and make it hell for everyone. Because if I had caused major hell when all this shit hit the fan maybe things would be different. But how different? And would it be a different I want? No. I've chosen to see this rationally and to be as calm as possible about it. I've only gone ape shit once.
It seems to me that she wanted to really make me upset by telling me that Aaron had told her she's hot and sexy. Yeah, so is Angelina Jolie. And she ain't know Angelina.
